Stage 1: Captivation
When you first find someone you are attracted to, you generally think, "Wow, I love this about them or I wish I had that quality or I am amazed at how they do this". Opposites attract and you are attracted to a person or organization because they do something that you either can't do or you can't do alone.
Stage 2: Competition
After a while, you start to realize that the person is not perfect. In fact, you start to find faults and think, "Why can't they do this? or I can't believe they survive life without doing this or why don't they see that this is important?" At this point, you probably start to try to change them, often finding yourself competing with them. Conflict can arise and you may even break up or leave the organization because their flaws are just too much to bear. Trying to change something you have no control over can be extremely frustrating.
Stage 3: Completion
If you continue through the frustration, you will probably eventually realize that other people do not view life or work the same way you do. You will probably realize that this does not identify their problem but rather, identifies your gift. At this point, you realize that you provide a great deal of value and your purpose in the relationship or organization is not to compete, but rather complete (the extra l stands for love).
By focusing on completion, you will make the relationship or organization better. You will also realize that the other person or people are valuable and actively show appreciation for them and their talents. By focusing on yourself and changing your personal perception, eventually you may even inspire others to your way of thinking.
This post was reposted from http://finlit.biz/business/compete-versus-complete-3-stages-of-a-relationship/, originally written on April 15th, 2013.
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